The Ultimate Birthday Party Planner Blog
by Paul Mordoff, owner of Party Talent, LLC
Paul Mordoff performs over 300 shows a year in the Northeast as Mr. Bungles, a comic clown character without makeup, whose act includes a comedy show, juggling, magic, and huge bubbles. For more information, visit PartyTalent.com or call (203) 846-2000. (This blog may be copied or reproduced in its entirety as long as this byline is posted.)
I have found from experience both as a children’s performer and as a parent that sometimes it is hard for children to make decisions. Many times they want to be involved with the party planning, but are not able to be decision makers. If you were to ask a child what they want, they mostly will have no concept of budget or what is possible. It is always better to limit choices and not leave everything wide open. Decide where you would like the party to be: At your house? At a separate party venue? Make some initial phone calls about pricing, then decide what will work for your budget. Ask your child, “Who would you like to have at your party?” Discuss names of relatives, friends, and classmates. Establish planning parameters. Many times children will change their mind at the drop of a pin, and that could drive you nuts! We all want to please our children. After all, this party is for them; but, if the child has too many choices to make and doesn’t understand what the restrictions are, it can be a very frustrating experience for both the parent and the child. I have found that the best thing to do is to give only two choices. For example, “Would you like to have a pony ride or a bounce house?” Of course, that would limit the choices to things you know you already want to do or can afford.
Let your child make simple decisions like what color balloons, napkins or plates. By allowing your child to make simple decisions, you will stay in control as you plan the party while your child still will feel involved. If you are dealing with children eight to ten years old or older, you can give them more responsibility. They will enjoy doing it. Think about what you, your spouse and friends would like. Think about the number of children you are inviting and how that relates to your child’s comfort level. For example, some children respond better with smaller groups of guests, while they may be overwhelmed by a large group. Thing about your budget, then make the big decisions on your own. Otherwise, you will become frustrated when you expect your child to think like an adult.
